The Key to a Successful Life

“Happiness comes in many forms — in the company of good friends, in the feeling you get when you make someone else’s dream come true, or in the promise of hope renewed. It’s okay to let yourself be happy because you never know how fleeting that happiness might be.”
-One Tree Hill

So life has been a little rocky lately and I suppose at times that’s just the way it is, between dealing with family issues, boys, and friends it’s easy to get lost in the madness and forget how to just live life. So here I am admitting that life after high school only gets harder, in fact all my friends who have already submerged themselves into their new college lifestyles and expected “fun” party lives have already grown tired of the “fun” of college and miss two places they never thought they’d miss.. 1)High School 2) Our hometown. It’s funny how experiences in our lives make us think so much about the places we’ve been and more importantly the people we were with when we were there.

There are times in my life now,as I have come to realize I could have done so much better with myself. There are so many things I missed out on due to my own decision making. But the truth is I don’t want to regret those missed moments anymore..There were a lot of things I did get to experience and I’m grateful for them all as they have shaped me into the person I am today. And i’m not perfect, I’m far from it. I’m not in college, I’m not employed, I’m living at home and I have rejected quite a few “experiences of a lifetime” in the past few months and still I feel that I have made the right choice because for the most part I am happy, at least I am happy with myself. I am still trying to figure out who I am, what I want my life and at this point who I really want in my life. These are hard choices to make and I realize that everyone has to make them, I’m just a little slower at making decisions sometimes.

But I’m getting better at it. I know now that the first step in my life is to choice who I want to spend my time with because above all else that’s the most important thing despite what my parents believe about this. So here goes: I want a boy who treats me right, who loves the person I am even when I make mistakes, and most importantly a boy who can make me smile. I want a best friend I can share things with and know that person really cares about what I’m saying, I want that person to give me their best advice and most of all I want someone who knows they can trust me to give them the same oportunities. I want a hero to look up to who is not afraid to show themself, a hero who accepts all ways of life, but strives to make them better, a hero who stands in a crowd and admits they’re happy to be different. Most importantly I want to hold these great qualities in myself, for myself and for the people in my life.

Most educated people define the keys of a sucessful life by your status in life. I remember in Sociology class my senior year learning about the different things by which my life would be defined by others; my relationship status, career choice, family, religion and economical status all which would be summed up as my “master status” and although I do agree those things do make up the person I am and what people think of me, I also believe there’s a lot more to it than that. As I said I would like a boy in my life, but I am still an independant person even with a significant other. I want my career to be something I’m going to love, not something that’s “going to make me rich.” I want a family to love and enjoy and as long as I have love in my life and enough money to be financially stable I’ll be happy with whatever comes in my life. How people define the keys of sucess in their lives are up to them, but mine will always be this. The one key to a sucessful life is HAPPINESS.

The Band Perry have recently come out with a new single called, “If I die Young”. Now being a young person who has recently lost a young friend this song has had a big impact on my perspective, not only because of my personal loss, but because of a verse in the lyrics that says:

“A penny for my thoughts, oh no I’ll sell them for a dollar
They’re worth so much more after I’m a gone
And maybe then you’ll hear the words I been
Funny when you’re dead how people start listenin”

Well here’s the thing, I don’t want to be dead for people to start listening to what I have to say. If there’s one thing I do before I die it’s going to be making sure I make a positive impact on people’s lives and make them listen to what I’ve got to tell them. I don’t want to be just another person going through life because I’m just in it. I want to enjoy my life and help others to enjoy their lives too. I don’t want to think of “It’s a Wonderful Life” and play the role of George Bailey (James Stewart), thinking people would be better off without me. I want to know that I’ve made people’s lives change for the better and that because of that I can lead a better life as well.

Although this blog ended up going in a completely different direction than I had intended on going and I still have a great many things still left to say I will leave it at this for the time being, get some sleep and enjoy the greatness that life has in store for me tomorow while I’ll be spending time with great friends and enjoying making new memories.

-Chelsea Sioux.

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